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Men’s Guide to an Explosive Orgasm
Perhaps the male orgasm is as mysterious as the female orgasm. Probably not. Since men seem to achieve orgasm about 110 percent of the time, we can only take a look at what can make it better, not more likely to happen. The male lasting long enough for both partners to achieve orgasm is the main goal for most couples, but that is easier said than done. Most of the men interviewed for the following study had adhered to the traditional methods of controlling orgasm—mental distractions such as thinking about a mathematical problem or conjuring up a distant scene, or physical distractions such as biting the lip or pinching the skin (the premise being that pain will override the sensation of orgasm and thus delay it). Some men found extra pleasure in being sensuously caressed and others experimented with drugs in order to achieve a more intense and powerful orgasm.
By Filthy Staff10 years ago in Filthy
Do Aphrodisiacs Work?
I made the mistake of reading up on so-called aphrodisiacs, or love potions, after eating a hearty lunch. The portions that gullible people have downed in an attempt to increase sexual prowess would turn innards. Or perhaps you would refer a concoction of dead bees tossed in a bottle with a little liquid, sealed, left to disintegrate for a couple of months, and then shaken well and swallowed. Or would you be tempted by a serving of powdered partridge brains? If I had to drink those mixtures I would be crawling into a sick bed instead of a love bed. Most of the world must agree with me, for these ancient brews have fallen out of favor. Fear not though, mother nature has not let you down, aphrodisiacs abound.
By Lizzie Boudoir10 years ago in Filthy
Why Financial Stress Damages Your Sex Life
Sex drive is a tricky thing. To feel sexy, desire sex, and take part in sex are three vital parts of your healthy sexual relationship. Unfortunately, these parts are also extremely fragile and can be greatly affected by outside influences. From physical and emotional ailments like imbalanced hormones, depression, and lack of self-confidence to rocky relationships, job stress, and of course raising children, it seems when it comes to our sex drive we are facing more hurdles than a Tough Mudder obstacle course.
By Jus L'amore10 years ago in Filthy
Ways to Cuddle
In the course of a day, we are bombarded by fleeting bodily contacts with strangers and associates. It is no surprise that these random contacts can be highly stimulating. Society has developed a fairly permissive standard for looking, but touching is prohibited. Zoologist Desmond Morris made note of this in The Naked Ape: "Body-to-body contacts have… become such an important part of sexual behavior that these too have to be damped down during the ordinary daily routine. A ban has to be placed on physical contact with strangers in our busy, crowded communities."
By Filthy Staff10 years ago in Filthy
Porn Star Makeup Tips
Porn star makeup is about looking stunning up close. It’s about looking flawless and dramatic while flaunting your over-the-top sexy side. While it's easy to think that porn stars naturally look like they do when we watch them, there's actually a good deal of effort that goes into getting ready for a shoot. Porn makeup takes a lot of prepping and skin deep secrets to help that makeup stay put all day and night long.
By Filthy Staff10 years ago in Filthy
What I Learned at Swinger Clubs
I have always been a fan of the unique sexual experience. Never one to enjoy being boring and stale, I pride myself on getting out there and learning to be adventurous. Some of my partners have been amenable to these "adventures" and some, not so much. But I don't judge. The key is to be open, and I am not just referring to your legs being open. Sex is about the mind, the heart and the body. Any situation that can engage those three and the rest of of your senses, is something worth exploring.
By Bea Norton10 years ago in Filthy
Guide to Leg Body Language
More than half of communication is delivered through body language, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re all speaking the same language. The way you cross your legs, tilt your head, or even blink can give off a message that you may or may not be intending to give. Ever heard the phrase, "Women are from Venus, men are from mars?" Women and men are rarely on the same page, so it should come as no surprise to any of us that body language can be as tough to interpret as any other foreign language. Think she’s being coy? She’s probably just bored. Ladies, think you’re being confident? Surprise! You’re actually a frigid bitch! How do we level the playing field when men and women look at the world so differently? You tell both sides of the story. Men and women take note, we can all learn a little something about non-verbal communication and what exactly it is that we are saying.
By Emily McCay10 years ago in Filthy
Tantric Sex Tips
Sex is so much more than just penetration! We read post after post offering the best blowjob, foreplay, and love making ideas, and while all of those can add some much-needed fire to the bedroom, what about trying an entirely new sexual practice? A technique so intense both physically and emotionally that, if taken seriously, could result in the most powerful orgasms of your life. That’s right I said orgasms, as in plural. No wonder this form of fuckery has been practiced for millennia. Who doesn’t want to experience the longest lasting, toe-curling, pure moments of ecstasy possible? Tantric sex is both pleasurable and intimate. More importantly, tantric sex tips have been proven to work for over 5,000 years.
By Bea Norton10 years ago in Filthy
How to Revive a Failing Relationship
Must an emotional cure always be a long job? When I'm asked this I generally answer that any basic personality change usually entails working your ass off at helping yourself over a period of time. Psychology and behavioral responses to conditioned activity play an important role in reviving failing relationships. Various experiments with clients are making me qualify this answer. They indicate that there are palliative methods which, if you employ them continually, tend to sink into your cognitive-emotive core and become curative—a permanent part of your behavioral pattern. In my book Rational Sensitivity: Self-fulfillment for Executives, I was able to give three such self-therapy techniques for calming the emotions. Here is how they work.
By Filthy Staff10 years ago in Filthy
Flirting Tips for Women
Have you ever been on a "sex audition"? Do you believe flirting is the same thing as texting? The science of flirting is maintaining a balance between attracting through engagement and never seeming too available. If you have ever practiced the "art of flirting," you know what I am talking about. When a woman purposely flirts with a man she is interested in, she tends to step into character, losing the sneaker-wearing-yoga-pant-loving version of herself and amping up the 6"-stiletto-no-panty-wearing edition. This sex goddess character is on a mission, a mission to be the funniest, wittiest, and most mysterious woman she can be. From long stares and batted eyelashes to the dropping of her napkin to show off her great ass, every woman has a different method to their enticing madness. As little girls, our mothers taught us to be ladies. Keep your legs crossed, never utter profanities, and never make the first move. As we have gotten older, we have learned that lots of fun happens when our legs are uncrossed and that all of the rules of being lady-like have changed. The rules are that there are no more rules.
By Bea Norton10 years ago in Filthy
When to Have Sex
How many times is enough? What if she wants to when you don't want to, and vice versa. Is spontaneous sex better than scheduled sex? Do women prefer their sexual encounters be planned and men prefer them any time any where? It is important to consider these issues when developing a productive, intimate relationship. Poor timing can cause stress on a relationship which can lead to changes in one's biological, sexual dynamic.
By Robert Chartham10 years ago in Filthy
